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Monday, September 9, 2013

Samuel Ward Boardman Jr In The Family Line

I advocate being systematic in family line research endeavors so I’ve decided to set a good example by writing my way backward through my ancestors in an organized way. And since I’ve written some family line stuff already about Mom (enough could never be said about her!) and since Dad, even though one of my ancestors, is still with us, I come next to my paternal grandfather, Samuel Ward Boardman, Jr.  On my family tree he is actually Samuel Ward Boardman III, but he went by “Jr.”

I’ve mentioned in other of my family line writings that Grandfather Boardman was born in 1874, a fact that continues to make me feel strangely connected to an era or two previous to my own.  His parents were each exceptional and shall be suitably memorialized in other posts, but suffice it to say here that they were Professor Samuel Ward Boardman (II) and Sarah Elizabeth Greene Boardman.  Now, look to your family tree and see if you can get that far.

This family line pair brought a total of nine children into the world, but most of these did not survive to be older adults.  In fact, by the time my grandfather was born, number seven in his family line progression, his parents had already suffered the losses of his most closely-aged siblings, Caroline and Henry (ages 3 and 1), who each died of fever two days apart while Sarah was pregnant with Samuel.  This left the Boardmans with their four older children, the third of whom, “Georgie,” passed away at age nine when Sam was but fifteen months old.

Next in the family line was a little brother when Sam was two, making up a family line of five remaining children – Mary, Elizabeth, Anna, Samuel and Roger.  Unfortunately, the excruciatingly familiar sadness was not over because Mary died at age twenty as Sam approached his eighth birthday and three years later Anna passed away at age seventeen while her mother carried the last family line sibling, Martha, in her womb.

I write this litany of joy and trauma to illustrate that things were much different for the family line back then.  So many dealt with unspeakable sorrow on a relatively frequent basis due simply to their inability to stave off the life-threatening family line illnesses of the day.


Samuel Ward Boardman Jr - 1878


Born in Auburn to a 37-year-old mother, Sam spent his earliest years in nearby Lisle, New York.  At age 15, his father having been called to the position of president of Maryville College in Tennessee, accepted, left his pastorate and the family took up residence there in September, 1889.  Soon after, Sam, now the eldest boy in the family line, was enrolled in the college prep school.

Although it wasn’t until 1907 that Professor Boardman formalized his family line aspirations for his two remaining sons in “An Informal Will” it’s apparent that his desires for Sam had been instilled in the youngster much earlier and cultivated.

“My general desire,” said Sr., “is that Sam should bring to bear whatever force he can to make laws and constitutions better and the current administration of them better, in his own private practice and also in wider spheres, and so make a life-long study of these things accordingly without much reference to whether in office or out; I think Sam has some judicial turn of mind.”

Apparently, Sam agreed.  Upon his graduation from Maryville College, he was off to Harvard and ultimately to law school at New York University.  Although over time he became proficient in a number of different niches of the law, his primary specialties were title and municipal law, the latter of which he exercised in the incorporation of Cedar Grove, New Jersey, where he lived from 1910 to 1951.

Samuel Boardman, Jr. was the father of quite a lengthy family line generation.  Typically, a generation, the average time between the birth of parents and the birth of their children is about thirty years.  Sam didn’t marry until he was thirty-four and his first child was born a year later. 
Sam and his son, William - My Father

He and his wife, Charlotte Katharine Tice Boardman, proud female branch of my family tree, proceeded to build their little family line of girls over the course of eight years.  By way of surprise, my father, came along fifteen years later making him the finishing family line touch!

Having spent quite some time reading the correspondence from the span of his life, it’s evident that Grandfather was raised to be a God-fearing man.  By virtue of entering the bar in 1899, and establishing his Newark, New Jersey practice, he was also then an attorney which made him what today would be something of an enigma:  a God-fearing attorney.  Add to this the fact that he was a lifelong Democrat and at least to my way of thinking he was a pretty rare bird!

Whether it was just that schools were so different back then or that Sam was an incredibly bright student, I’m not sure, but he excelled in mathematics, languages, music and family line history.  The latter of these talents manifested itself in his authorship of “From Then To Now…A History Of Cedar Grove,” a booklet published in the early 1950’s recounting the stories of the small town and its people whom he served in various capacities for 39 years.  My family tree studies are the richer for it.

In early 1955, when asked by his doctor, also interested in the family line, how old he was, Sam responded with an insight into some of his math ponderings:

“I’m 80 years, 4 months and 22 days, in other words 29,363 days.”

The doctor then asked how long he had been counting.

“Since I was 80.  The Bible says ‘So teach us to number our days that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.’  Each morning early I add one to the number of my days and then amuse myself by factoring the total.”

A few days later, describing all this in a family line letter he said, “How it changes factors from day to day.    Today - 29,370 – has these prime factors:  2x3x5x11x89.  Yesterday’s total seems to have as prime factors only 43 and 683.”  Little did I know, when I began looking into my family tree, all that I would learn!

One “factor” in Grandfather's entertaining himself this way may have been the fact that he suffered from glaucoma which rendered him legally blind for his final 15 years or 5,480 days and may also explain some of the time he had for looking into the family line.

Much to my own consternation, he sometimes wrote his pre-blindness letters in French or Latin just for the fun of it.  I can only assume he wrote these to recipients whom he knew would understand them.

Not to be impeded by the silly fact that he could no longer see, he began typing his family line correspondence with quite a lot of success.  Although in his earlier days he possessed a very nice legible hand, the fact that much of his collected communications are typewritten comes as a significant benefit to those of us who read them.  My collection of his writings have certainly enriched my own study of my family tree, since Grandfather often sprinkled his letters with family line information.

Samuel Ward Boardman, Jr. went to be with his Lord Jesus on July 5, 1956, twelve days prior to my first birthday.  How can I encourage you in singing your ancestors?  For the singing of Samuel’s praises, I’ve combed the family line archives for his letters, effects and ancillary information about him.  It’s been a joy and has made me wish all the more that I’d been able to know him the way I knew my maternal grandfather.

In the combing I’ve found some special family line indications, not the least of which is the fact that Grandfather Boardman not only understood the laws of man, but he thoroughly understood the laws of God and made it his life’s work to live by them and convey them to his own family line.

His pastor said this of him at his memorial:

“The attempt to discover a single sentence which might appropriately convey to us the significance of the life which Mr. Boardman lived among us led to remembrance of the line in the Book of Proverbs, ‘The spirit of man is the candle of the Lord.’”

Among the many rays of light Grandfather left along his way were a goodly number of what he called “versifications.”  These were his own poems, some pertinent to the family line, but many of which were paraphrases of Scripture.  His metrical interpretation of Psalm 91 begins this way:

The man who dwells within God’s
secret place
Shall rest beneath the shelter of
His grace.
Of God, the Lord, I’ll say “My
refuge he:
In Him I’ll trust, He shall my fortress
be.”

I’ve spent many, many hours researching my family tree.  It’s an honor to be able to connect the members of my family line.  But inasmuch as the gathering of names, dates and places is fulfilling, how much more privilege there is in having the opportunity and the ability to bring forth biographical bits from the lives that were responsible for my very being and which now constitute my own family tree.  Grandpa Boardman, it’s been my pleasure to do so.

Your family tree and your family line await your attention.  Why not occupy yourself soon with singing your ancestors?

They're there in your family line shoebox or family line file cabinet looking for the day you'll revive and esteem the memories of their family line lives - so well-lived but so long-forgotten.

The satisfaction I've derived from the research of my family line and the discoveries I've made hanging out on my family tree are almost immeasurable.  I'd be willing to bet your family tree will yield a true harvest of family line abundance as well.  After all, your family tree goes back into the eons just like mine.

Why not get to it?  Your downstream family line will bless you for it!



For additional content on family line pastimes, you may want to refer to the following links:

Honor Your Family Line by Singing Your Ancestors
Family Line Tribute
Journaling Your Family Line and Your Family Tree Studies
Mining Family Line Nuggets

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Family Line Voices Live When You Write

Fresh off of Mother’s Day and thoughts of my recently departed mom got my inspirational juices flowing a bit, once again, over my family line.  Mom left for Heaven last July, so this was our first Mother’s Day without her.  As might be expected we, the “remainers” were nostalgic.  You might keep holidays in mind as you begin to give voice to the stories growing on your family tree.

My efforts as a documenter of our family line (and one who writes about my family tree), by design, push further than the mere collection of names, dates, and places.  Yes, I do love the visual presentations of my family tree such as the nicely done pedigree charts and if you’re anything like me you definitely want those “roadmaps” to your family line too.   If you've not yet gotten to the point of publishing your family tree, I think you'll be surprised at just how much fun you'll have being able to look back into your family line that way.

In my humble opinion, though, those visuals of your family tree will be much enhanced by your ability to tell the stories of your ancestors that go along with that framed family line display on your wall.  It’s really so much more fun when you’re able to actually explore who your people were rather than just settling for faceless names.  Give them renewed voices and don’t simply accept ancestral silence.

Family Line Guardian
Meanwhile, though Audrey Arliss Bahl Boardman’s physical voice is now silent, the sound of her life’s work – her family and other people, especially children – continues to reverberate through the family line.  I’m just plugging in a set of speakers here so her family line story can be heard.

I was her firstborn and therefore had a ringside seat for the coming along of the next two family line birth siblings, the first adoptive sister and the final birth sister.  The five of us made up the little club I’ve dubbed “The Babysitters.”  Mom enlisted lots of assistance from this group as she and Dad proceeded to adopt their final four children.  Yep.  At completion our little family line unit had nine young members.

Audrey was a subscriber to the notion made famous by Edgar Guest that “It takes a heap o' livin' in a house t' make it home…”  And live she did – she, and we.

My mother had the world’s lowest pain threshold, a fact that I challenge anyone in our family line to disprove.  This severe aversion not only to pain, but really the experience of anything that even approached it, spilled over to her knee-jerk response any time she sensed anyone else’s hurt also.  It’s my conviction that this is the primary cause for her ending up with nine extensions to the family line.  If she got wind of a parentless, suffering child, she was very likely to want to adopt it.  I say all this to her credit.  As a mother, she was the best there ever was.

When you look up the word “fun-lover” in the dictionary, that’s her picture there illustrating it and oh, how, she loved to laugh!  I hope that hanging on some recent branch of your family tree you have someone like Audrey who could laugh at almost anything.  And speaking of the family line, I’m virtually certain Mom acquired this gift from her dad, Ralph Russell Bahl, whose family line bumped up against Lindbergh.  He was another Class A laugher and the best part of it with both of them was they could make you laugh too!

Tea Time
She loved the English “High Tea” and in her dream Victorian home she hosted many a tea party for family line members, friends and strangers, even occasionally using the house as a venue for fundraising efforts for her favorite children’s charities.

Mom was all about other people.  I’ve mentioned her love for children, but she was always looking for a way to make someone else feel good…child or adult, family line member or not.

There’s a little old Sunday School song that she pulled out of a hat a couple years ago, the lyrics of which really caught my attention.  She couldn’t remember the whole thing so I Googled it and found the chorus reads this way:

“Others, Lord, yes, others
Let this my motto be,
Help me to live for others,
That I may live like Thee.”

This really was her essence and you didn’t have to be around her for very long to catch it.  In fact, it was so much a part of her personality that even in her long cognitive decline “others” were in her mind.

I’m sure I’ll never forget for as long as I live one particular day.  Dad and I were working on some project down below the deck in their back yard.  By that time I was consistently keeping one ear open for what Mom was up to because from time to time, due to her Alzheimer's, what she was doing wasn’t totally safe. I heard the kitchen door open above us and then I heard a rattling and a chattering.

What a beautiful sound that will always be to remember:  the sound of my 79-year-old, Alzheimer’s-afflicted Mother doing what she knew best - serving.  Bringing coffee to two of her men.  Her palsied hands rattling the tray wasn’t going to stop her!  What a tremendous family line heritage she left to us.

The fact that I lived next door to the two most immediate members of my family tree for the last seven years of Audrey’s life was significant on many levels, not the least of which was that it afforded me the fun of seeing her excitement over our family line.  As I’ve said elsewhere, my Aunt C.K. was the real keeper of the family line until her death in 1992.  However, Mom was heavily instrumental in taking C.K.’s massive collection of information, letters and artifacts to the next level:  She got the family line writings out and read them – out loud to any family line within earshot!

The flame of my family tree passion was fanned as time after time Mom would pull out some letter from the Revolutionary, Civil or World War era written by an ancestor and say, “Look!  Look here, Brad!” and proceed to decipher the handwritten family line time capsule.  Incredible.

I won't soon forget the day I realized I was holding in my hand an actual letter (of course, hand-written) by my 4th great grandfather, The Honorable Roger Sherman, Founding Father, dated 1790.  The fact that I’m directly descended from this tower is cause for a whole other body of family line writing, but suffice it to say possessing his letter is truly a family line honor.  Thank you, Mom, for pointing me to it.

Obviously, when you sing the unsung of your family line, you’ll never encompass their full scope in a blog post.  I certainly don’t pretend to have done so here as I’ve pulled out a little of the Audrey Boardman family line for you, but I think you can see what I’m talking about when I suggest giving your family line members a voice.  They can't, but you can!



If you're interested in this business of honoring your family line by telling their stories, you may want to take a look at the following content:

Singing Your Ancestors

How To Take A Family Tree Odyssey 

Family Line Tribute


Illumine Your Family Tree